Three Good Things
On 2022-07-30 as part of a process of self-esteem and positive
self-talk, I started posting a list of three good things that had
happened to me every day on Mastodon. I've found this a lovely
practice. It has already started to evolve to only include good
I personally had an impact on, in an effort to centre my
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Went bouldering again! My hands are shredded a bit but it
was really good fun!
Great day at work today, I went into the office and was very
productive. Made good progress on a couple things and got
lunch with one of my colleagues.
- Had a lovely phone call with my mum.
I went to the opening of a photography exhibition, which was
wonderful. Beautiful pictures, some utterly devastating.
Good spin bike session. I'm trying to do more exercise at
the moment, and it's definitely helping with my mood.
Had a really lovely dinner with someone I'm dating at a Thai
I went bouldering today! Was really fun, but my hands are
kind of tired now! Definitely going to go again.
Rewatched Jennifer's Body for Hallowe'en: fuck me that's a
Had dinner with someone I'm dating, which was really sweet,
and a glass of sparkling wine to celebrate.
Went and got brunch with my friend and someone I'm dating,
lovely start to a Sunday.
We went to the cinema to see The Banshees of Inisherin,
which was absolutely wonderful. Very darkly funny meditation
on masculinity and loneliness.
Watched the latest Jacob Geller video on Sekiro, which was
Really chill day! The party finished quite late so I slept
Went to the farm with someone I'm dating — and saw
My friend came to visit, I don't see her too often so it was
really nice just to catch up.
Nice day at work, quite busy but generally productive and
not too stressful.
Cooked dinner with someone I'm dating, we made vegan
- Went to a Halloween party, which was really lovely!
I did a spin class today, always makes me feel strong after!
Went and got a pizza with someone I'm dating, very chill,
good vibes all round.
Went to a WARGASM/Scene Queen gig, supports went hard too.
Another productive and fun day at work today, got some good
Had dinner and watched TV with someone I'm dating, really
Went for a walk at lunch and got some air. It was lovely to
take that time out of my day.
Lots of progress made on my visualisation piece at work,
things are coming along nicely there.
I made a delicious dinner, oven-roasted vegetables and beans
with a mustard dressing. I love taking the time to cook for
Watched the first two episodes of the new season of Chucky.
Very gay, super fun. I love this show! Also free on YouTube
for anyone in the US/with a VPN (the first two, anyway).
Very relaxed but productive return to normal work, I made
Had dinner with someone I'm dating. It's nice to just relax
and take stock after a long busy week.
Counselling today was extremely emotionally taxing, but
overall pretty positive. I feel like I got one new
understanding out of it, which is good.
Went to the Turner Contemporary, which was an awesome space
with some interesting exhibitions going on at the moment.
Had a great breakfast and watched a storm rage over the sea.
Now I'm home, having some dinner and watching TV. It's been
a great busy week and it's been lovely to just relax
Day 1 of my lovely holiday, went and got delicious seitan
satay for breakfast with someone I'm dating. Great start to
- Walked on the beach and saw a crab!
Went to the Margate Crab Museum, which was such a cool queer
anti-capitalist space full of funny little displays and
Completed my residential training and got some really
positive feedback about my presentation skills, as well as
things to work on.
Spent some time with the other attendees talking — I
feel like I've met some really cool, smart people these past
- Travelled home and to my holiday destination!
Day 2 of the residential was super productive. We completed
a pitch deck together as a team, I had some moments to try
my presenting skills, and I had some good snacks too.
- Breakfast was really chilled and relaxed.
I had an early night and relaxed after a long day of work.
It's good to take time to actually recover.
Day 1 of my residential course at a beautiful chateau in
France. The people are lovely, even if the material is super
I took an hour to walk around the lake here and take some
photographs. It's so beautiful, especially in autumn.
Had a call with someone I'm dating in the evening which was
Productive morning at work, not much to say other than I got
some pieces wrapped up and communicated some needs to my
team. They're really helpful.
I travelled to Paris for a residential course, which is
really exciting. Can't wait to get started.
Had a drink and got to know the people here. Everyone seems
really friendly, no big egos or rudeness, just genuine and
- Good day at work preparing for a big course.
- Continued BSL course, going well.
Lovely date with someone, went to see Decision To Leave.
Breakfast, pancakes, with someone I'm dating and my parents.
Travel home was lovely - more crosswords, and some podcasts.
- Started a British Sign Language course.
Travelled down to see my family, and did crosswords on the
- Lovely day celebrating my nephew's first birthday.
- A walk and dinner with someone I'm dating.
Chill morning, had some coffee and toast and listened to the
latest Knowledge Fight about the Alex Jones judgement.
Had a work event which was really fun, got to meet some new
people and hang out with folks on the project that I rarely
see in person. Good times! I don't think I've ever enjoyed a
work event before!
Heading home to one of the people I'm dating, chill evening
in and some dinner.
Super productive and fun day at work, doing some kinda
boring stuff but with nice people. Honestly it makes all the
Had a chill evening in, tidied round and got packed for the
An intense, sweaty and kind of emotional spin ride —
it's important to remember that my body has so many
positives, including power and endurance.
Pretty good day at work, made a good start on quite an
involved task and did some training that needed doing.
I cooked dinner with someone I'm dating, then we played
boardgames and chilled out. Lovely evening.
Alex Jones got hit with $1B in damages. Couldn't have
happened to a nicer person. Get fucked.
I did a cardio boxing class, which was really fun and
different, and did my back stretches too. Feels good to move
my body around.
I listened to a bunch of good music — including the
soundtrack because I'm gay — and got some housework
Today was a pretty challenging day at work, but I got
through it and feel pretty good. I don't have to absolutely
crush every day — it's okay just to get through it
Had a pretty good day at work, got some pieces done that
Used my spin bike for a bit — trying to get in the
habit of regular exercise at the moment.
Had a really nice long chat with someone I'm dating on the
phone, which was lovely. We finalised some plans. Just a
lovely way to spend time.
Had a lovely lunch with someone: went to the park, chill
Cooked dinner with someone I'm dating, really delicious food
and lovely company!
Watched Hedwig and the Angry Inch for the first time,
gorgeously weird and queer movie with great music and some
of the most beautiful cinematography. Highly recommended.
Had a chill day with someone I'm dating, hanging out and
making plans for the month.
Lovely dinner, sushi, as well as leftover soup turned into
noodles for lunch.
Watched a bunch of Pottery Throwdown with someone,
which was lovely.
Tough but good day at work, got a difficult and awkward
piece finished off.
- Lovely evening with someone I'm dating.
Made a really delicious Thai butternut squash soup for
Had my first therapy session today, the psychologist was
really nice. Kind of tiring and difficult, but positive.
- Went on the exercise bike for half an hour! Let's go!
Chatted with someone I'm dating on text, which was lovely
Went on a date with a lovely person — we had dinner
and saw Flux Gourmet, which was excellent.
- Work was good.
Offered some support to my friend who's struggling at the
Got my medication sorted out, which has needed doing for a
Cooked a delicious tandoori aubergine curry with rice and
some spicy pickle.
Watched some TV, had a chill evening tidying round and
sitting on the sofa.
Had a very productive day at work, still feeling capable and
like I know what I'm doing.
Finished early to get a haircut. My last haircut was a
pretty crappy experience but the hairdresser was really
lovely and welcoming, and I feel really confident about how
Had an evening with a lovely person, just hung out, listened
to music and had dinner together.
A quick note: I'm writing these every day, but I spend so much
time at a screen at work that I won't be updating them every
Had a coffee and a chill little morning with someone I'm
dating, really sweet way to start the day.
- Put on some eyeliner :)
I replayed ANATOMY by Kitty Horrorshow today to get
in a Hallowe'en mood, and that sure is still a video game.
Geez. My poor mind.
Had a really chill morning having breakfast and coffee with
a lovely person. Great start to the day — so chill my
brain thought it must be Sunday!
My friend is celebrating a big milestone in their sobriety,
so we had a really fun party and I hung out with and got to
know some cool folks. We also went to see some stand up,
which was hilarious.
I had an Almdudler, which I haven't had in probably five
years. Reminds me of being 12!
Super productive day at work, I got a lot done in a short
span of time. I'm definitely susceptible to imposter
syndrome but today was not one of those days.
Had a really chilled out day with a lovely person, we pet
some animals and had lunch together. Just an all-round
Went out to dinner with my other lovely person to an Indian
restaurant: the food was amazing, one of the best meals out
I've had this year and that's saying something.
Had a lovely date evening in a queer space, one of the most
pleasant and supportive places I've been. Genuinely
Good day at work, got a lot done but still took time for a
Listened to some chill music, including the new DCFC album.
I started The Turn of the Screw: I'm not really a "seasonal
reader", but I make an exception for Hallowe'en. I love a
ghost story. I had seen a little of The Haunting of Bly
Manor — it's interesting to see what they chose to
I had a really nice lunch. There's a university café that
I've been going to semi-regularly: they don't always have
vegan food, but when they do it's usually excellent.
I did my meditation, something I'm trying to stay consistent
with. It makes me feel better, more centered,
disproportionately often: [investor voice] it has high
Had a phone chat with a lovely person, I love talking on the
phone. So underrated.
Reading some Borges, who I've discovered is a silly weirdo
who writes funny stories. Why did no-one tell me this? This
often happens with authors I perceive as "hard" — Moby
Dick was the same, just a fun book about a silly gay whaler.
Had a pretty good day at work, mostly calls and
organisational metawork but still very important.
In The Dream House
today — brilliant and utterly devastating. I also
started Fictions, I haven't read Borges before and
I'm loving his style. Good book day today.
Went to get laser hair removal, and had a lovely walk home
afterwards. The city looks so lovely in this weather. I love
this time of year.
Called to arrange my first counselling session, very
I had a very productive morning, did some house and food
shopping then meditated. Lovely morning walking weather.
I had a really nice lunch, roasted vegetables with kombucha
tofu sausage. Have a lot of left-over veggies in the fridge
I went for a really gorgeous autumnal walk and took some
cool photos of my old church. Lento 10/10 camera app.
I got Tetris Effect on sale and played a bit of that
— very cool, fun sound design.
I went for a walk and found a little cafe that I might go to
I did some meditation, which turned into a nap. Today was
really difficult, but I am trying to allow myself space and
time to recover.
I am feeling really ill today, but put my physical health
above obligations and stayed in tonight. Not gonna pretend
I'm not disappointed but it was the right thing to do.
Got a new City PB, I'm still having so much fun with
Work was really good today, we wrapped up a big section.
Time for something new
Despite the stressful start, work was really good today. I
got some interesting little bits of coding done and
delivered some value.
Had breakfast and coffee with a lovely person. Starting the
day with people you really care for is such a pleasant
Went out for a work meal at a really good Spanish place,
everyone was lovely to be around. Just a good day all round.
Super productive day at work, I got those two pieces
finished up and handing in. Also had some good conversations
about the next things I'm working on.
Lovely evening with a lovely person, we made dinner together
and watched TV. I have a very social week so it was nice to
just chill out. We also had a good talk and I was honest
with myself and them.
Did some more self-care-type tasks: body stuff, tidying.
Things that improve my mood long-term but that I don't enjoy
doing in the moment.
Got a new any% PB, I'm having such a fun time just working
on little bits of the game.
Had a really productive day at work, completing two pieces
that needed doing. I feel very skilled at the moment.
Did some self-care tasks, including things I always skip and
always help my mood.
Made some tentative plans to see lovely people this week.
Started playing the Arphimigon D-Sides, super fun and
challenging. I'm going to work my way through those.
Due to national holiday I ended up shopping somewhere I
don't normally, and I got a baguette which was actually
really delicious! Had a great lunch and dinner.
Took the day to rest and recuperate, something I should try
harder to prioritise more. But I guess "prioritisation" goes
against the point of "rest", huh?
I've been really getting back into running
Celeste recently — got a new PB on City and
spent some time working on Chapter 6 & 7 any% routes. I
think I'm making progress!
Chatted to some friends on messaging apps for a bit. Today
was a very "inside" day, which isn't my favourite, but it
turned out pretty good.
Got a 44:54 today, sub-45 achieved! What next?! Who knows?!
I fixed the flush in my bathroom, always feels rewarding to
do house maintenance. Something to remember.
- Made a really nice broth for lunch.
I decided to go for a sub-45 in
Celeste any%, and got a new PB of 45:43 on my second
serious run. I've completely got this.
Made plans to go on holiday in October — and to see a
lot of people next week!
I had a sinus headache today, so trying be kind to myself.
Ate good food, wrapped up warm, and rested. Making a
conscious effort not to shame myself for resting and
recovering. On the plus side — I got a cold, it's
Had breakfast with a person, coffee and chill times in the
morning. Great start to the day.
I started learning the spike jump and double wall bounce in
4A — wow, spike jumps are easy! I always thought they
were way outside my skillset!
I bought a really cute fancy jumpsuit for a work do next
week. I'm not the most "trad fancy clothing", but it's nice
to dress fancy sometimes!
Had dinner & a chill night in with a lovely person —
we made broth and dumplings and watched
My in-person counselling was signed off by the insurer, so
I'll hopefully be starting that soon!
I learnt 2 new skips in Celeste: a spike jump in 5B
that I probably won't use in runs, and another spike jump in
7A that I definitely will!
- I had a nice oat milk chocolate bar at lunch.
My work have sorted out a laptop for me, it's taken them a
while but that should make my workflow a lot easier.
Had a really fun evening, got dinner with a lovely person,
met some of her friends and went to a stand-up gig.
Got a lot of work done, including some stuff that I don't
think anyone else would've looked at yet. Hopefully has
I "did self-care": meditated, went for a run, and did my
stretches. I had a good lunch, too. Trying to make time for
I'm going to eat some pizza and watch videos, just relax
Had a nice relaxed late breakfast — cooked vegan
breakfast with coffee and lemonade.
I had a phone call with one of my friends, it was good to
just chat and catch up.
Went round for dinner and boardgames with someone, really
lovely evening after a pretty busy weekend.
We got donuts and coffee for breakfast and hung out with
Went to a street food market and got arepas and sushi
— odd combo, but both really tasty.
Went to two parties: a housewarming/birthday that was so
lovely and chill and welcoming, and a birthday at a cool
metal bar where I did some dancing!
Good day at work - long but all positive. Got some stuff
- Went out for dinner and had a delicious thali.
Went mudlarking with a lovely person — we found some
bones and pottery fragments.
Met a bunch of people from my project in person, and went
for coffee with the person I work most closely with —
everyone is so nice.
Spoke to my medical insurer about in-person counselling,
which they've signed off on. Hopefully a positive step for
my mental wellbeing, despite how much the initial call shook
I went to my self-defense class, which was really fun
— we did a takedown and lots of punching!
Had a positive but taxing conversation last night that led to me
not getting much sleep, so today I've been focusing on self-care
Got a couple of cheap USB thumbsticks and loaded them up
with files to share with friends and loved ones.
I've had a stiff back for a couple of days, so I took time
to do stretches and that's really eased it off — maybe
something I should do more often?
Read a couple of zines/essays on anarchism and polyamory,
Polyamory and Queer Anarchism
is a good theoretical primer to go with the emotion and
Nordgren. I've been loving the Anarchist Library recently!
Good day at work today, got some positive feedback on what
I've done so far. Lots of calls though so I'm pretty tired!
I went to the post office to pick up coffee for this month
— excited to try a cup tomorrow.
The first three months of prints from
Ritual Dust's print club
arrived today! They're each absolutely gorgeous, I hope they
inspire me to find beauty in my day.
I got the grade back for the second data visualisation, and
Had a moment where I was feeling quite low, but I spoke to a
friend and it really helped.
Read a bunch of cool pamphlets and zines, including
Towards the queerest insurrection.
Got brunch with one of the lovely people in my life and had
a super pleasant chill morning.
Went to the anarchist bookshop and picked up a ton of cool
Had a fun evening at a queer housewarming/BBQ with the other
lovely person I'm seeing, met loads of cool people.
the latest Jacob Geller video, super interesting — it reminded me of conversations
I had about therapy, productivity and work with a friend.
I took time to do some chores: prepped some lunch for
tomorrow, tidied and dusted, and wiped down the kitchen.
I'm going on a date tonight, we're seeing
Three Thousand Years of Longing.
Played some more Thumper and got to the last stage
— this and Celeste are the perfect combination
for me: high difficulty, lovely gamefeel and quick feedback.
I got the first piece of actual work done for my project!
- I finalised my weekend plans with lovely people!
I was honestly very dysphoric this morning. So I tried hard to
be kind to myself today, and I feel like I did a good job.
I had a delicious lunch, went for a walk, and bought some
cursed chewing gum (raspberry and vanilla flavour).
I opted for more old-school tech today: neon pink F91-W over
a smartwatch, and my iPod for music. It did really well!
Couple of minor memory problems but nothing a reboot
I went to my queer self-defense class and got a drink with
them after — everyone is so lovely and fun.
I got a really pleasant big day planner, which hopefully
should help me function a bit better day-to-day.
Played some more Thumper, finished level 6 which has
some really tough sections at the end.
Made some time to read after work — I've started
The Tao of Pooh
as part of my intermittent Le Guin-inspired Taoism reading.
First day of my new project at work — had loads of
intro calls with people and went through some handover, it
went really well!
I went to a farm for lunch and said hi to all the animals.
carrarium speedrunning Celeste all cassettes
at Flame Fatale, which was a super fun run —
resisting the urge to learn a new category!
Went for a ride on my bike and chilled in the park for a
- Went round to my friend's house and made pizza!
Started playing Thumper which is fantastic, tough and
immersive in like the real meaning of the word.
Went out for breakfast with the family before I got the
train home, had lots of coffee and some OJ.
Hung out with my baby nephew for a bit and ate some carrot
Listened to music on the train home — the new Muse
album, some Slayer and Bimbocore by Scene Queen.
- Had pancakes for breakfast with someone lovely.
- Went out for dinner for my mum's birthday, Thai food.
Hung out and played Mario Kart with my sister and her
husband, saw my little nephew.
- Had a great day at work.
- Lovely date, very chill night in 🙂
I fell over on a run and got a juicy bruise, but a couple
lovely people came over and checked I was okay.
Ate really well today, lots of fruit and fresh foods, and I
had tofu fried rice for dinner.
Really productive day at work, I got the first assignment
for my Python course submitted.
Chatted some toki pona today and started expanding that part
of the site (including a
Had a good day at work, got a lot done in the morning then
had some intro calls for my new project.
Went and had dinner with a friend who I haven't seen in a
while, which was lovely.
- Made plans with someone lovely to go swimming 🙂
- Had a lovely date, went out for dinner then saw NOPE.
Started the next module on my Python course, which dives
into data visualisation (and ethics!!!)
Re-downloaded Discord and wrote some toki pona for the first
time in a while.
Did some yoga this morning - my back is almost back to
- Got out pens and paper to do some drawing.
Organised some social and date nights for the rest of the
I went for a walk through parks and churchyards, saw some
anti-fascist art and interesting buildings.
I did some yoga to ease my back off and re-centre myself, it
really helped. I should do it more often.
I had a coffee and a read, starting the Tao Te Ching and the
Air issue of Cunning Folk zine.
I went for a walk to ease my back off and picked up some
cool zines from an independent bookshop.
- Started watching Revolutionary Girl Utena 🌹
The weather was really nice today, it's finally started to
I finished the final assignment for my Python course and got
started on something else.
Listened to some really good music including the new
Mountain Goats album, think I may need to revive the shortly
lived music zine.
I did some stretches for my back and made a lot of time to
Had a super productive work day, got lots of required stuff
done and some more Python learning.
Played some badminton and met up with friends (and tweaked
my back 😭)
One of my family members had some minor surgery and it went
well, just wonderful news!
Had a lovely date, we ate dinner, plantain and vegan BBQ,
and went to see Bullet Train.
Work was long but good, I got a lot done and learnt some new
- My hair looked good!
- Did week 2 of the Python course — sea legs, got.
Met a couple of the other newbies and had a chat. It was
really nice, what I missed out with online induction.
- I went for a walk and had a good lunch.
Tough mental health day, but called a friend: talking to her
helped take my mind off things.
I did the first week(!) of a Python data science course to
get my sea legs again.
- Made a really nice dinner.
Reached out to someone to tell him I got a lot from an
article he wrote.
Picked up my medication, which is lucky because I just ran
- Logged in and did a bit of the CBT course.
Bought some gorgeous art and had a chat with one of the
artists about demons 🎨
Went out for breakfast, pancakes with some coffee and OJ 🍊
- Messaged some people and started making social plans 🙂
Print by (link to instagram)
Little White Ear.
Made quesadillas, they turned out really well considering
I've never made them before! 🌶️
Played some Terraforming Mars and got my ass absolutely
handed to me 😂
- Did a bit of work on the website 🖥️
Went for my laser appointment, it's going well and the tech
was really lovely 🙂
- Nice busy day at work 💻
Got Syncthing working, backing up my photos out of the
Google environment 👍
Had a really nice breakfast with fresh strawberries and
strong coffee 🍓
- Spoke to my sister on the phone 🙂
Took some time out of my day to do yoga, which was very
Got a lot of the rote mandatory training done so hopefully
the rest of my week will be more interesting 🙂
- Went to a life-drawing class with a lovely person 🎨
I ate really good vegan food, peanut butter vegetable curry
and a burger with rosemary fries 🍔
First day at my new job, I got started on all my induction
tasks and met my new manager 🙂
- Went for a walk in the evening before the sun set 🌇
- I cooked a good dinner, roasted veg and spicy tempeh 🥕
Started moving my website over to handwritten HTML,
including a journal page to hold my Three Good Things 💻
- Finished my lemon painting 🖌
- Saw a friend and got delicious food together 🍔
I dialed in the new coffee and had a couple of espressos -
really tasty with a strong strawberry smell 🍓
I moved my website over to using Atkinson Hyperlegible,
which I really like the look of and is allegedly very
- Started an acrylic painting of my lemon bowl 🍋
I ordered coffee from a local roaster that I believe to be a
more ethical bunch, and it arrived today! Can't wait to try
Did some impromptu testing of the NHS gender identity
clinic's self-referral page and submitted a bug report for
dead links 😂
Made plans with friends and dates for the next week, and
updated my diary and calendar too 📆
Went to the library to return some books, and got out "The
Word for World is Forest" by Ursula K. Le Guin 📖
Had a friendly and helpful chat with my mental health
supporter about the CBT app I'll use 🧠
Got the IT kit from the job I start on Monday, as well as a
snazzy little backpack. Someone on the team reached out too!
- I'm feeling even better than yesterday, on the mend 👍
Made some plans with a lovely person for when I'm well ☺️
Had a lovely call with my parents. I wasn't able to see them
recently so it was nice to just chat
I watched some of the Alex Jones trial, the parents'
testimony was deeply moving. I'm glad they get to hold him
I feel way better today, still not 100% definitely but
moving in the right direction 🤒
Had a cathartic sob listening to She/Her/Hers,
Planet of Weeds. Beautiful sad track about the fear and dread of losing
everything beautiful in the world 🌳
I'm feeling really run down, but people have sent
get-well-soon messages 🥰
I started The Haunting of Bly Manor which is excellent 🏳️🌈
I checked in with my friend who's moved, I really miss them
- I have a lovely date ☺️
I figured out why my water pressure wasn't great and fixed
it, then had a shower 🚿
- I wore an outfit that made me feel hot 🔥
Breakfast and coffee with a lovely person, deeply pleasant
start to the day ☕
I bought a fruit bowl and filled it with lemons to put in my
- I opened a really nice orange wine🍷